Do Friendships Have Seasons?

Do our friendships change? Sure they do and for a lot of different reasons. Not always bad reasons, but change is change.

When I got pregnant with my son at eighteen I lived this. My friendships changed because I changed. I wasn’t headed to college, I wasn’t partying every weekend…I just wasn’t in the same season as your typical eighteen year old. Some of my friendships evolved during that time, but others didn’t because we were living different lives at the time.

Fast forward to my kids are in sports and I had my stadium friendships. I spent most of my time with these other parents and by default we became great friends. Some of those lasted, but after my kids aged out, so did a lot of those daily talks because the time wasn’t there to have them.

Fast forward to today…my kids are grown, my stadium days are over, I’m not much of a go-outer, and I’m spending more time being a “Dee” to other people’s kids, being a teacher to my agents, and tinkering around my house. Some friends are the same from high school or raising kids, but most of them are different.

So why have my friendships changed over the years? Because I have. My ideas changed, my priorities changed, my ways of living changed, the way I spend my time changed. So it’s natural to be closer to different people during different seasons.

You see, some friendships are like bras. Year round, no matter what. You guys support each other every day no matter what season you’re in and you’re on common ground every day. Any female knows a good bra is rare, so you’re lucky to have a handful of these. Others are like winter coats or a beach cover up….still loved and still valuable…just not in all seasons of life.

It’s okay to have both kinds. You can give different friends your best and connect at the right common time, and have a different spot for the ones who have become a part of your every day life.