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When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left but could say I’ve used everything you gave me.

Erma Bombeck

About Me

I’m Shandi. I’m a home grown country girl from Alabama, I’ve raised two amazing children, and own a real estate company. I cook, drink coffee in the mornings, enjoy my wine, love Jesus, and I cuss a little. I take care of people I love, I write when I have something to say, and I don’t mind sharing where I think I could do better.

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Nothing lasts forever and you can’t fall off the floor.

my Dad

Latest Thoughts…

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  A Forever Reference of Unconditional LoveJanuary 11, 2026
  Growing up seeing what unconditional love looks like in a marriage is a blessing…seeing it to the very end is a privilege.
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  What 2025 Taught Me About Love, Effort, and Being Someone’s MedicineJanuary 2, 2026
  A take on the anxiety behind emotional labor, doing it wrong, the cost of being someone else’s medicine, and maybe a way to get it right.
• Peripheral VisionNovember 23, 2025
  It’s a slippery slope imagining what you “deserve” – but there’s a point in life where you do realize what you need and that should be completely congruent with what you actually do expect to get out of the ones you call “friend.“ A few of those things may include loyalty, consideration, kindness…if you’re luckyContinue reading “Peripheral Vision”
• The Shot That Broke America’s HeartSeptember 12, 2025
• Old Bill…New AccountFebruary 12, 2025
  If you’ve lived long enough as an adult, you’ve experienced some relationships that just seem to accumulate debt. The kind where the other person took more than they deserved or maybe didn’t give enough to keep their relational credit up. But what about the new relationships? The ones where you don’t have any debts orContinue reading “Old Bill…New Account”

Why I Write

I’ve seen a lot of joy in my life and a lot of heartache, too. I’ve learned a lot about people and myself, and what I’ve found is the good is always at the end of something that feels bad. The blessings are from God and the lessons are in the time we spend learning what they are. Here’s where I write for my future grandkids to read and if anyone else wants to read it, that’s okay, too.