How Far do You Take it?

This may be an unpopular opinion and also maybe hypocritical to my “let it go” and “heal the hurt” messages…so hear me out. How far do you take it when someone hurts your child?

All the way to the gates of hell to deliver them and back is how far I’ll take it. I’m not a parent who has had to deal with learning my child was abused sexually or physically, that may have very well landed me in jail. But I am a parent who has learned just how nasty adults can be towards children, my children and also other children I love.

If there’s anything on this earth that fires me up, it’s when adults use children to hurt other adults. If you’ve been divorced, this may sound familiar, or if you have children in your life you care for it may also ring true.

Children are innocent bystanders to the schmuck of life, so when they’re little hearts are hurt by cold, calculating, manipulative adults, I’m not saying it’s unforgivable, but I am saying you can forgive, remember, and adjust accordingly.

Say something. Do something. Protect a child from unnecessary hurt. This adjustment may mean distance and it may mean no contact. Whatever it looks like in your situation, take it all the way. When those children are adults, they will see you protected them and that’s a quiet confidence they can blossom in.

As adults if they choose to encourage the healing of a relationship that was hurtful to them before, stand by them then, too. Whatever the outcome may be, they’ll always remember who stood in front of them when they couldn’t protect themselves.