That Marilyn Monroe quote “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” is garbage. The first part is true for everyone, but that last part is just hot garbage. It sounds all good and clever when convincing yourself your disaster is something you want to spread around, but here’s what I think:
Your worst should be the exception, not the rule. We are all worse than our best from time to time. Yes, please, after I show you my best, care enough to extend grace when you experience the ugly and watch me correct it…. Maybe even help me correct it. But, shouldn’t we all have a reasonable expectation of being on the receiving end of effort in all relationships?
If you wouldn’t take that quote to a job interview, a custody hearing, couples therapy, or the gates of Heaven – work yourself out of that mentality now.
You get the best by being your best.
Deeper Than a Puddle 