Mistakes and issues are two very different things. A mistake is something we know we did wrong, something we regret, and likely a flub that won’t happen again because when we made it, we were careless or not paying attention. It’s something we don’t want to happen again and we see the error. It’s how we learn and grow.
Having an issue is a bit different. An issue will likely play on repeat, an issue isn’t something we come and say “I’m sorry” for because we don’t acknowledge the effect it had. An issue is a problem.
So when you’re choosing who to align yourself with and taking that relational inventory…really think about things that happen that cause you stress and discern if they were just a mistake or an actual issue. A mistake can be easily forgiven, maybe even overlooked with the right amount of grace…but those issues are likely there to stay unless that person puts in some work that you can’t do for them.
So if you’re choosing to involve yourself with people with unaddressed issues that affect you, the ones that give you PTSD and make you want to jump into a ceiling fan…. There’s your own issue to start putting the work into correcting.
Deeper Than a Puddle 