…We should not have to manage someone’s memory or negotiate their motivation and being heard should not equal being a nag…
Author Archives: Shandi White
The 45 Year Old 2nd Birthday Dollar
Feeling love right when you need it from the most unexpected places.
A Forever Reference of Unconditional Love
Growing up seeing what unconditional love looks like in a marriage is a blessing…seeing it to the very end is a privilege.
What 2025 Taught Me About Love, Effort, and Being Someone’s Medicine
A take on the anxiety behind emotional labor, doing it wrong, the cost of being someone else’s medicine, and maybe a way to get it right.
Peripheral Vision
It’s a slippery slope imagining what you “deserve” – but there’s a point in life where you do realize what you need and that should be completely congruent with what you actually do expect to get out of the ones you call “friend.“ A few of those things may include loyalty, consideration, kindness…if you’re luckyContinue reading “Peripheral Vision”
The Shot That Broke America’s Heart
Old Bill…New Account
If you’ve lived long enough as an adult, you’ve experienced some relationships that just seem to accumulate debt. The kind where the other person took more than they deserved or maybe didn’t give enough to keep their relational credit up. But what about the new relationships? The ones where you don’t have any debts orContinue reading “Old Bill…New Account”
Greenwashing
Greenwashing is when when companies make misleading statements about their actions to appear more environmentally friendly than they actually are. Usually they do this so they can get something passed with the government (or maybe it is the actual government) so they’re supported by the public and affiliates. In our private lives, it’s called virtue-signaling.Continue reading “Greenwashing”
My Ambivert Life
am·bi·vert • noun • /ˈambəˌvərt/ The outgoing introvert. We can get tired from socializing too much. We can be super flexible and are used to things changing. We love people but we don’t need to be on the go. I don’t have a “taco Tuesday” or a favorite color. I don’t have a favorite anything,Continue reading “My Ambivert Life”
Swedish Death Cleaning
In Sweden, this is called “döstädning” – organizing your life before you pass away. This is more than making sure the floors and countertops are wiped down…this is about making sure the loved ones you leave behind to deal with all of your belongings don’t have a big headache, wondering what’s important to you andContinue reading “Swedish Death Cleaning”