“I just don’t like to argue” sometimes just means “I don’t know how to stand up for myself“. And sometimes arguing for the sake of arguing is just you being belligerent. So what’s the difference? The difference is in what the end game is. If when it’s over you’ve given up pieces of yourself soContinue reading “Being Belligerent vs Having a Backbone”
Author Archives: Shandi White
Show Your Scars
I will always choose to see the potential of someone I care about over the pattern they’re living. YOU are not a mess. You’re in a mess.YOU are not a disappointment. You’re in a season of poor choices.YOU are not being controlled. You’re allowing it.YOU are not weak. You’re deciding to be too generous.YOU areContinue reading “Show Your Scars”
You’re Not Broken
You’re not broken, you’re just on the mend to be more valuable and beautiful. We can either choose to live with the pieces, or choose to put ourselves back together. Pick up your pieces and heal, just like a bone that’s broken and healed, that part of you will be stronger for it.
The Younger Eyes Are Watching
Even if you’re “just a teenager” or “just in your 20s”, never forget you’ve got something to teach and a younger lady or younger man is watching and learning by the way you handle yourself in both life’s good and bad chapters. Hey, mamas and daddies…it’s not a bad idea to find yourself a womanContinue reading “The Younger Eyes Are Watching”
Don’t Make it Worse
All day I’d rather be the one getting hurt than the one doing the hurting because there’s something to be said for being the stone and not the stepper. Standing out doesn’t always mean being the loudest. Sometimes standing out just means standing up for what you know in your heart is good to doContinue reading “Don’t Make it Worse”
Are You Relatable?
If you stopped talking mid sentence would anyone ask you to finish? If the answer is no, you might want to change your topic or your delivery and definitely start using less words. Our sphere of influence is limited by our ability to relate to people & their ability to relate to us. No oneContinue reading “Are You Relatable?”
Have the Uncomfortable Talk
No one likes an uncomfortable conversation, but if grace is the fuel for change and vulnerability exposes love, a conversation is something you should practice and believe in. Read those again. Grace is the fuel for change. Vulnerability exposes love. Powerful words there. Don’t be afraid to string together a loving set of words thatContinue reading “Have the Uncomfortable Talk”
Parenting Windows
Let’s talk about parenting adult children. There’s a big difference in calling your kids to berate them about something you don’t like to offer unsolicited judgement and in them calling you to ask what you think and wanting your advice. Your feelings on the subject may very well be the same but the package thoseContinue reading “Parenting Windows”
Floating a Little Too Far from Shore?
If you’ve ever floated on a raft at the lake, the gulf or ocean, you know that feeling when you think you’ve been relaxing but you open your eyes only to realize you are nowhere near where you started. You can’t see your chair, nothing looks familiar, you might even be in dangerous waters, andContinue reading “Floating a Little Too Far from Shore?”
It Takes 2 Minutes…
Does anybody have those friends who call you for seemingly no reason just because they had a prompting on their heart to reach out to you? There really is something in the gift of discernment and being blessed with exceptional intuition. It’s special when people see through the masks we all wear and even beautifulContinue reading “It Takes 2 Minutes…”
Deeper Than a Puddle 