It’s a slippery slope imagining what you “deserve” – but there’s a point in life where you do realize what you need and that should be completely congruent with what you actually do expect to get out of the ones you call “friend.“ A few of those things may include loyalty, consideration, kindness…if you’re luckyContinue reading “Peripheral Vision”
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Old Bill…New Account
If you’ve lived long enough as an adult, you’ve experienced some relationships that just seem to accumulate debt. The kind where the other person took more than they deserved or maybe didn’t give enough to keep their relational credit up. But what about the new relationships? The ones where you don’t have any debts orContinue reading “Old Bill…New Account”
Self Proclaimed Victim Status
“I can’t make anyone happy” “I’m just ruining everything“ “I’ll just quit” No. What you need to do is stop being such a baby when someone calls you out on your bullshit and accept some responsibility. Self proclaiming yourself as the victim is lazy. And it’s annoying. Don’t like where you are, CHANGE IT. Don’tContinue reading “Self Proclaimed Victim Status”
The Spin
Redacted information is manipulation. We’ve all done it. Tell a story a certain way when you want people to agree with you, conveniently leave out little bits of it so you can control the opinion, spin doctor the outcome….Put ourselves in the light, the right, and generate a pile on of support. But are weContinue reading “The Spin”
“I prayed about it.”
One of my favorite things to do, but one of my LEAST FAVORITE retorts to hear. Now let me explain because this is a little touchy…So, we prayed about it. That’s good, I think that’s what we should do. Ask for guidance, ask our friends to join us in prayer, even take a minute toContinue reading ““I prayed about it.””
Turbidity
Turbidity is the measurement of how cloudy water is. If you see a beautiful creek turn brown and yuck, it’s because somewhere upstream someone’s doing some sloppy work and not keeping the dirt away from it. High turbidity. Those fabric fences, wattles, and riprap rocks you see around a construction site, those are there toContinue reading “Turbidity”
Bacon & Eggs
Think about your breakfast one morning when you have some time to ruminate what it actually took to get all that to your plate. The chicken’s involved, but the pig’s committed. One day you’ll have a decision to make in your life where you have to choose what you are. Probably more than one ifContinue reading “Bacon & Eggs”
Link vs Kink
A chain is made up of many links, it’s what makes it strong, and adding more to it is what makes it long. A kink in a chain interrupts that process, weakens it, makes it unpredictable, and sometimes makes us throw that chain away or at minimum cut the bad part out. Information flows theContinue reading “Link vs Kink”
Parenting Nuggets
Sometimes being a mama means giving your child the info, providing them with the perspective of the bigger picture that comes from your wisdom through experience, and letting them earn their OWN wisdom through experience. The life lessons I’ve learned the most from are the ones I experienced on my own with the guidance ofContinue reading “Parenting Nuggets”
Turning a Slip into a Faceplant
Ignoring guilt that leads to correction is turning a slip into a fall. We must realize our actions have a ripple effect because we don’t sin in a vacuum & a “whatever” attitude will cause us to fall short in our relationships. It’s healthy to imagine how our actions will impact others & react accordingly,Continue reading “Turning a Slip into a Faceplant”
Deeper Than a Puddle 