Do you think of people when they aren’t around and understand what they don’t say? When you’re connected to people, you should. What I mean by this is sometimes people say things without saying them because they’re afraid to admit they’re struggling and sometimes people pull back when they need you to lean in. SometimesContinue reading “Attentiveness: Hearing What’s Not Said”
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Retrain What Your Brain Looks For
So I’ve started doing a new thing with a few of my friends. Each day we actively try to take a picture of the best part of our day to share with each other at the day’s end. I got the idea online and I loved it so much I had to try it. ANDContinue reading “Retrain What Your Brain Looks For”
There’s More to Everyone’s Story
Maintaining a picket fence perfect life front is a lot of work…And not very effective if your goal is to help people. No-one has a perfect marriage, perfect children, zero conflict in friendships, no financial conflicts, perfect bodies or no insecurities – Ze-ro of us do! People learn so much more from your scars thanContinue reading “There’s More to Everyone’s Story”
Maybe if You Ask 67 Times
Maybe if you ask 67 times you’ll turn that no into a yes. Maybe reword it or ask for the same thing from a different angle. Maybe keep pushing and ask at a different time of day. Or maybe listen to the answer the first time, change the situation by doing your part to changeContinue reading “Maybe if You Ask 67 Times”
If You Died, Someone Would Cry…
Posted every year since 2015. Dear Person Who is Loved by People, This Christmas season as we’re making our gift lists and thinking about what we don’t have and want – a wish for all of us is that we remember that PEOPLE are the most important gift we will ever receive from this world.Continue reading “If You Died, Someone Would Cry…”
It’s Not Right or Wrong
It’s not right or wrong, it’s “do you understand?”… The best relationships are born and thrive in this question. It’s not always about defending your decision. It’s not always about proving to the other person why you were justified and where they were wrong. If maintaining the relationship is important to you, it’s about understandingContinue reading “It’s Not Right or Wrong”
Why Demand What You Can Request?
I was watching two little boys play yesterday, taking turns jumping off of a bench, and I hear “Get out of my way” from one to the other. Well, that wasn’t very nice. I called that little boy over and said, “Okay, I’m going to say the same thing to you in two different waysContinue reading “Why Demand What You Can Request?”
Ass-U-Me, pronounced “assooome”
When we assume, we’re relying on the information we have to feel a certain way about how things turned out. But what if we don’t have all the information? What if that friend didn’t call you back like they said they would because their kid got sick and puked all over the couch and whileContinue reading “Ass-U-Me, pronounced “assooome””
Do Friendships Have Seasons?
Do our friendships change? Sure they do and for a lot of different reasons. Not always bad reasons, but change is change. When I got pregnant with my son at eighteen I lived this. My friendships changed because I changed. I wasn’t headed to college, I wasn’t partying every weekend…I just wasn’t in the sameContinue reading “Do Friendships Have Seasons?”
People Vote “With Their Feet”
We can plan the perfect party at the perfect venue with the perfect activities and the perfect food, but if it’s not what the people you invite want to do, they don’t come. They “vote with their feet” by literally not using them to come do what you thought would be perfect. So what doContinue reading “People Vote “With Their Feet””
Deeper Than a Puddle 