Are Hurts Like Leftovers?

“The key to happiness is a short memory.” Betty Creel White “What if hearts are infinitely reparable? Would knowing that make you fearless in love? Instead of avoiding heartbreak, you could give all your passion and play and intimacy…and trust your heart’s ability to heal from the inevitable bumps, bruises and crashes. Contrary to fantasy,Continue reading “Are Hurts Like Leftovers?”

What’s Karen Got to Do With It?

Ever notice how people who aren’t trying to grow spiritually or people who have a really high horse they’re on like to point out everyone else’s sin? It’s super annoying. Guess what!? Churches are full of sinners. Yep. It’s true! 100% sinners. I’d rather be called a hypocrite by a busy body than never feelContinue reading “What’s Karen Got to Do With It?”

Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst

Not everyone is a pink Starburst. Sometimes people let us down and disappoint us. So, is it fair to actually BE let down? Because maybe the people we WANT to be the pink Starburst are nice yellow Starbursts – good but different. Still good! I’ve discovered at the ripe age of 29+? that it’s moreContinue reading “Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst”

Nobody Likes Being Rejected

The thought of rejection can sneak into a good idea or answered prayer & strip the joy & motivation right out of it. Don’t confuse “not meant to be” with “afraid to be” because you can’t get past the fear (or even the possibility) of being rejected. Jesus was born with the fact of facingContinue reading “Nobody Likes Being Rejected”

Rearrange Your Furniture

I’ve decided life is too short to hold grudges. Tomorrow I might change my mind about this…but today I realize you can’t expect people to be something they’re just not capable of being. So why be mad about it? Never try to teach a pig to sing. You will just frustrate yourself and piss offContinue reading “Rearrange Your Furniture”

Failure = Opportunity

Epic fail or divine purpose? There are not a lot of things more discouraging than feeling like you’ve failed at something. You start to convince yourself you’re incapable of change, better off without trying again, and basically put your own ball and chain around your ankle. Consider the idea that God will re-purpose your garbageContinue reading “Failure = Opportunity”

Should You Apologize to Your Kids?

By far, one of the greatest lessons you could ever teach your kids is how to humbly apologize. I’m not always good at it, but I feel like I’ve not been terrible at it, either. It starts with apologizing to them. It doesn’t make you a bad parent to admit you messed up, it doesn’tContinue reading “Should You Apologize to Your Kids?”

You Forgive Your Dog for Worse

If you’ve ever come home to find your dog has totally destroyed the crate and smeared a hot steamy dump all over the walls around it, you will relate to this. Meet Charlie. He’s a rescue and I’ve had him for 11 days. He’s adorable and cuddly and loving. He wants so badly to pleaseContinue reading “You Forgive Your Dog for Worse”

We Don’t Have to Cry Alone

“I’ve heard that no matter what you’re going through, someone has it worse. I don’t like that statement. I’ve never liked it. It’s emotionally dismissive, and it teaches us our personal struggles are insignificant. So we hide, and we refuse to cry out, and we try not to burden others with our pain. Someone mightContinue reading “We Don’t Have to Cry Alone”

Little Moments that Count

No, my life is not margaritas on a beach, that’s a very very small portion of it. It really is the day in day out, who your people are, the space you make your home, the conversations you have with strangers, the 30 minutes you spend connecting with your friend…if you’re fortunate, the affection youContinue reading “Little Moments that Count”