Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst

Not everyone is a pink Starburst. Sometimes people let us down and disappoint us. So, is it fair to actually BE let down? Because maybe the people we WANT to be the pink Starburst are nice yellow Starbursts – good but different. Still good! I’ve discovered at the ripe age of 29+? that it’s moreContinue reading “Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst”

Nobody Likes Being Rejected

The thought of rejection can sneak into a good idea or answered prayer & strip the joy & motivation right out of it. Don’t confuse “not meant to be” with “afraid to be” because you can’t get past the fear (or even the possibility) of being rejected. Jesus was born with the fact of facingContinue reading “Nobody Likes Being Rejected”

Rearrange Your Furniture

I’ve decided life is too short to hold grudges. Tomorrow I might change my mind about this…but today I realize you can’t expect people to be something they’re just not capable of being. So why be mad about it? Never try to teach a pig to sing. You will just frustrate yourself and piss offContinue reading “Rearrange Your Furniture”

Failure = Opportunity

Epic fail or divine purpose? There are not a lot of things more discouraging than feeling like you’ve failed at something. You start to convince yourself you’re incapable of change, better off without trying again, and basically put your own ball and chain around your ankle. Consider the idea that God will re-purpose your garbageContinue reading “Failure = Opportunity”

Should You Apologize to Your Kids?

By far, one of the greatest lessons you could ever teach your kids is how to humbly apologize. I’m not always good at it, but I feel like I’ve not been terrible at it, either. It starts with apologizing to them. It doesn’t make you a bad parent to admit you messed up, it doesn’tContinue reading “Should You Apologize to Your Kids?”

You Forgive Your Dog for Worse

If you’ve ever come home to find your dog has totally destroyed the crate and smeared a hot steamy dump all over the walls around it, you will relate to this. Meet Charlie. He’s a rescue and I’ve had him for 11 days. He’s adorable and cuddly and loving. He wants so badly to pleaseContinue reading “You Forgive Your Dog for Worse”

We Don’t Have to Cry Alone

“I’ve heard that no matter what you’re going through, someone has it worse. I don’t like that statement. I’ve never liked it. It’s emotionally dismissive, and it teaches us our personal struggles are insignificant. So we hide, and we refuse to cry out, and we try not to burden others with our pain. Someone mightContinue reading “We Don’t Have to Cry Alone”

Little Moments that Count

No, my life is not margaritas on a beach, that’s a very very small portion of it. It really is the day in day out, who your people are, the space you make your home, the conversations you have with strangers, the 30 minutes you spend connecting with your friend…if you’re fortunate, the affection youContinue reading “Little Moments that Count”

Show Your Scars

I will always choose to see the potential of someone I care about over the pattern they’re living. YOU are not a mess. You’re in a mess.YOU are not a disappointment. You’re in a season of poor choices.YOU are not being controlled. You’re allowing it.YOU are not weak. You’re deciding to be too generous.YOU areContinue reading “Show Your Scars”

Don’t Make it Worse

All day I’d rather be the one getting hurt than the one doing the hurting because there’s something to be said for being the stone and not the stepper. Standing out doesn’t always mean being the loudest. Sometimes standing out just means standing up for what you know in your heart is good to doContinue reading “Don’t Make it Worse”

So, You Burned the Toast

I’m good at a few things, y’all. Cooking without recipes, whistling in public, writing solid contracts, thinking outside the box, being a fiercely loyal friend, loving and protecting my people, forgiving people and expecting the best, beginner level home improvement projects…..but I’m not good at all those things all the time. Does it mean IContinue reading “So, You Burned the Toast”