It’s a slippery slope imagining what you “deserve” – but there’s a point in life where you do realize what you need and that should be completely congruent with what you actually do expect to get out of the ones you call “friend.“ A few of those things may include loyalty, consideration, kindness…if you’re luckyContinue reading “Peripheral Vision”
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Old Bill…New Account
If you’ve lived long enough as an adult, you’ve experienced some relationships that just seem to accumulate debt. The kind where the other person took more than they deserved or maybe didn’t give enough to keep their relational credit up. But what about the new relationships? The ones where you don’t have any debts orContinue reading “Old Bill…New Account”
Mistake v. Issue
Mistakes and issues are two very different things. A mistake is something we know we did wrong, something we regret, and likely a flub that won’t happen again because when we made it, we were careless or not paying attention. It’s something we don’t want to happen again and we see the error. It’s howContinue reading “Mistake v. Issue”
Turbidity
Turbidity is the measurement of how cloudy water is. If you see a beautiful creek turn brown and yuck, it’s because somewhere upstream someone’s doing some sloppy work and not keeping the dirt away from it. High turbidity. Those fabric fences, wattles, and riprap rocks you see around a construction site, those are there toContinue reading “Turbidity”
What would you whisper in your own ear?
I’d tell this little girl she is beautiful, smart, sweet, sassy, and that God loves her bigger than the whole sky. I’d tell her she is going to be a leader, a big sister to 4 amazing humans, have 2 exceptional children, grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren. I’d tell her that her parents are her twoContinue reading “What would you whisper in your own ear?”
Home is Different for Everyone
“A chaque oiseau, son nid est beau.” Translation “To every bird, its own nest is beautiful.” Little quotes you find in New Orleans years ago that earn meaning with gained perspective. I’ve been in hundreds, maybe even thousands of homes throughout my career. The one thing I’ve noticed in every price point is the amountContinue reading “Home is Different for Everyone”
Attentiveness: Hearing What’s Not Said
Do you think of people when they aren’t around and understand what they don’t say? When you’re connected to people, you should. What I mean by this is sometimes people say things without saying them because they’re afraid to admit they’re struggling and sometimes people pull back when they need you to lean in. SometimesContinue reading “Attentiveness: Hearing What’s Not Said”
No One Deserves Your Worst, Not Even You
That Marilyn Monroe quote “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” is garbage. The first part is true for everyone, butContinue reading “No One Deserves Your Worst, Not Even You”
Your Best Valentine is a Happy Heart
When we don’t have joy in our hearts, there’s a good chance we are highly affected by everything that happens around us. Or doesn’t happen, especially on Valentine’s Day. My wish for everyone this Valentine’s Day is that whether you get flowers or chocolates or dinner or a card or even a phone call, thatContinue reading “Your Best Valentine is a Happy Heart”
What do you give up to be loved?
Being a codependent is real. It’s crippling and something to not get confused with being a good parent, lover, or friend. If you give up little pieces of yourself and redirect a well thought out plan for your life for companionship, you’ve chosen the wrong company. We are meant to love, but we are notContinue reading “What do you give up to be loved?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 