It’s a slippery slope imagining what you “deserve” – but there’s a point in life where you do realize what you need and that should be completely congruent with what you actually do expect to get out of the ones you call “friend.“ A few of those things may include loyalty, consideration, kindness…if you’re luckyContinue reading “Peripheral Vision”
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Old Bill…New Account
If you’ve lived long enough as an adult, you’ve experienced some relationships that just seem to accumulate debt. The kind where the other person took more than they deserved or maybe didn’t give enough to keep their relational credit up. But what about the new relationships? The ones where you don’t have any debts orContinue reading “Old Bill…New Account”
Swedish Death Cleaning
In Sweden, this is called “döstädning” – organizing your life before you pass away. This is more than making sure the floors and countertops are wiped down…this is about making sure the loved ones you leave behind to deal with all of your belongings don’t have a big headache, wondering what’s important to you andContinue reading “Swedish Death Cleaning”
Self Proclaimed Victim Status
“I can’t make anyone happy” “I’m just ruining everything“ “I’ll just quit” No. What you need to do is stop being such a baby when someone calls you out on your bullshit and accept some responsibility. Self proclaiming yourself as the victim is lazy. And it’s annoying. Don’t like where you are, CHANGE IT. Don’tContinue reading “Self Proclaimed Victim Status”
Mistake v. Issue
Mistakes and issues are two very different things. A mistake is something we know we did wrong, something we regret, and likely a flub that won’t happen again because when we made it, we were careless or not paying attention. It’s something we don’t want to happen again and we see the error. It’s howContinue reading “Mistake v. Issue”
“I prayed about it.”
One of my favorite things to do, but one of my LEAST FAVORITE retorts to hear. Now let me explain because this is a little touchy…So, we prayed about it. That’s good, I think that’s what we should do. Ask for guidance, ask our friends to join us in prayer, even take a minute toContinue reading ““I prayed about it.””
Shit Pie is Better Than Plain Shit
Love tanks. Everyone has one and everyone’s has a gauge. You can’t see it, it’s not as cut and dry as looking in the dash of you car, but it’s there. And I bet when yours is on E, it feels a lot like undervalue or confusion. But when it’s full, it feels a lotContinue reading “Shit Pie is Better Than Plain Shit”
Turbidity
Turbidity is the measurement of how cloudy water is. If you see a beautiful creek turn brown and yuck, it’s because somewhere upstream someone’s doing some sloppy work and not keeping the dirt away from it. High turbidity. Those fabric fences, wattles, and riprap rocks you see around a construction site, those are there toContinue reading “Turbidity”
Bacon & Eggs
Think about your breakfast one morning when you have some time to ruminate what it actually took to get all that to your plate. The chicken’s involved, but the pig’s committed. One day you’ll have a decision to make in your life where you have to choose what you are. Probably more than one ifContinue reading “Bacon & Eggs”
Want a Do-Over?
Someone asked me the other day what part of my life I’d go back to. I think not one. I would love to have a day or two visit back to a few parts of my life but I can’t think of one part of my life I’d want a do-over for or one thatContinue reading “Want a Do-Over?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 