Redacted information is manipulation. We’ve all done it. Tell a story a certain way when you want people to agree with you, conveniently leave out little bits of it so you can control the opinion, spin doctor the outcome….Put ourselves in the light, the right, and generate a pile on of support. But are weContinue reading “The Spin”
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Mistake v. Issue
Mistakes and issues are two very different things. A mistake is something we know we did wrong, something we regret, and likely a flub that won’t happen again because when we made it, we were careless or not paying attention. It’s something we don’t want to happen again and we see the error. It’s howContinue reading “Mistake v. Issue”
“I prayed about it.”
One of my favorite things to do, but one of my LEAST FAVORITE retorts to hear. Now let me explain because this is a little touchy…So, we prayed about it. That’s good, I think that’s what we should do. Ask for guidance, ask our friends to join us in prayer, even take a minute toContinue reading ““I prayed about it.””
Shit Pie is Better Than Plain Shit
Love tanks. Everyone has one and everyone’s has a gauge. You can’t see it, it’s not as cut and dry as looking in the dash of you car, but it’s there. And I bet when yours is on E, it feels a lot like undervalue or confusion. But when it’s full, it feels a lotContinue reading “Shit Pie is Better Than Plain Shit”
Turbidity
Turbidity is the measurement of how cloudy water is. If you see a beautiful creek turn brown and yuck, it’s because somewhere upstream someone’s doing some sloppy work and not keeping the dirt away from it. High turbidity. Those fabric fences, wattles, and riprap rocks you see around a construction site, those are there toContinue reading “Turbidity”
Bacon & Eggs
Think about your breakfast one morning when you have some time to ruminate what it actually took to get all that to your plate. The chicken’s involved, but the pig’s committed. One day you’ll have a decision to make in your life where you have to choose what you are. Probably more than one ifContinue reading “Bacon & Eggs”
All Pretty Things Need Work
“If you’ve got a pretty house & a pretty yard, somebody’s done work in it,” my grandmother, Betty Creel White. And when you stop taking care of it, weeds start to grow and the shutters fall off. It’s not surprising that the same thing happens in our relationships when we quit working on them. Don’tContinue reading “All Pretty Things Need Work”
Even Baby Birds Learn to Fly
It’s an odd moment the minute you accept the child you raised from a helpless baby is spreading their wings to fly away. But if all mama birds kept their babies in the nest, there’d be no more birds. The best way to love an adult child is to speak positivity into them, encourage themContinue reading “Even Baby Birds Learn to Fly”
Link vs Kink
A chain is made up of many links, it’s what makes it strong, and adding more to it is what makes it long. A kink in a chain interrupts that process, weakens it, makes it unpredictable, and sometimes makes us throw that chain away or at minimum cut the bad part out. Information flows theContinue reading “Link vs Kink”
Parenting Nuggets
Sometimes being a mama means giving your child the info, providing them with the perspective of the bigger picture that comes from your wisdom through experience, and letting them earn their OWN wisdom through experience. The life lessons I’ve learned the most from are the ones I experienced on my own with the guidance ofContinue reading “Parenting Nuggets”
Deeper Than a Puddle 