Have you ever received something that had so much thought put into it, that the effort was more valuable than the thing? It’s why my grandmother kept this awkwardly shaped Alabama pottery I made as a 3rd grader for over 30 years and why looking at this orchid every day makes me so happy. It’sContinue reading “Effort is Loving”
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Turning a Slip into a Faceplant
Ignoring guilt that leads to correction is turning a slip into a fall. We must realize our actions have a ripple effect because we don’t sin in a vacuum & a “whatever” attitude will cause us to fall short in our relationships. It’s healthy to imagine how our actions will impact others & react accordingly,Continue reading “Turning a Slip into a Faceplant”
Is pretending to be stupid a good defense?
“I don’t know what happened!” “That’s crazy!” “I didn’t notice.” “You should probably talk to _____ about that.” “Huh, that’s weird!” “I have no idea!” All responses of people pretending and hiding behind their choices when they actually did play the lead role in a bad choice. So is pretending to be stupid a goodContinue reading “Is pretending to be stupid a good defense?”
Chess Moves vs Checkers Moves
Chess moves involve multi step thinking, multi tool moves, and past today outcomes. Can you win at checkers with simple moves? Yes, absolutely yes. Can you do the same in chess? Hard no. So when you think about people and business and why you do what you do and the cause and effect of thoseContinue reading “Chess Moves vs Checkers Moves”
Home is Different for Everyone
“A chaque oiseau, son nid est beau.” Translation “To every bird, its own nest is beautiful.” Little quotes you find in New Orleans years ago that earn meaning with gained perspective. I’ve been in hundreds, maybe even thousands of homes throughout my career. The one thing I’ve noticed in every price point is the amountContinue reading “Home is Different for Everyone”
Bad Decision(s) Can Stay Singular
From time to time, I let my emotions dictate my thoughts and my thoughts dictate my decisions. We all do. What’s for the birds is stepping out of your emotions and wishing you’d made a “better” decision. One emotional decision does not necessarily have to beget a string of bad decisions. When you’re feeling trappedContinue reading “Bad Decision(s) Can Stay Singular”
What’s it mean when men “Mutely Witness”?
I mostly write about women and relationships. Simply put because I’m a woman, my thoughts are largely focused on how females can love better, mother better, and how it feels to be hurt, and how I want to love when people hurt. Today I’m reminded again about leadership and how it connects men and womenContinue reading “What’s it mean when men “Mutely Witness”?”
Attentiveness: Hearing What’s Not Said
Do you think of people when they aren’t around and understand what they don’t say? When you’re connected to people, you should. What I mean by this is sometimes people say things without saying them because they’re afraid to admit they’re struggling and sometimes people pull back when they need you to lean in. SometimesContinue reading “Attentiveness: Hearing What’s Not Said”
No One Deserves Your Worst, Not Even You
That Marilyn Monroe quote “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” is garbage. The first part is true for everyone, butContinue reading “No One Deserves Your Worst, Not Even You”
What do you give up to be loved?
Being a codependent is real. It’s crippling and something to not get confused with being a good parent, lover, or friend. If you give up little pieces of yourself and redirect a well thought out plan for your life for companionship, you’ve chosen the wrong company. We are meant to love, but we are notContinue reading “What do you give up to be loved?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 