If someone asks you to do something or if they can have something is it okay to say no? Absolutely it is. I feel like there’s this pressure to please others while displeasing ourselves, like it’s our penance to pay for unrelated things. I was raised Catholic, so doing “things” to make up for sinsContinue reading “Is it Okay to Say No?”
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People Vote “With Their Feet”
We can plan the perfect party at the perfect venue with the perfect activities and the perfect food, but if it’s not what the people you invite want to do, they don’t come. They “vote with their feet” by literally not using them to come do what you thought would be perfect. So what doContinue reading “People Vote “With Their Feet””
What’s “Commitment” Mean?
Are you really so committed if you truly enjoy what you do or who you’re with? Think about that. To me, commitment happens when you don’t enjoy it. We say “we just grew apart”’ “I just got tired”, or “life happened” or whatever thing we say to justify changing our mind. No, commitment is whenContinue reading “What’s “Commitment” Mean?”
Negative Mind —> Negative Life
GOOD women can be irascible tarts. The snide remarks, manipulative pot stirring, gossipy tendencies, snarkiness, and sometimes just downright meanness can drive the good influences away. We all go through seasons of negativity, usually relative to WHO we’re surrounding ourselves with – and possibly that we’re not going to church or digging deep with someContinue reading “Negative Mind —> Negative Life”
Are Hurts Like Leftovers?
“The key to happiness is a short memory.” Betty Creel White “What if hearts are infinitely reparable? Would knowing that make you fearless in love? Instead of avoiding heartbreak, you could give all your passion and play and intimacy…and trust your heart’s ability to heal from the inevitable bumps, bruises and crashes. Contrary to fantasy,Continue reading “Are Hurts Like Leftovers?”
Dear Beautifully Strong Willed Woman,
That very thing that makes you the most caring, tenacious, and resilient friend, sister, daughter, mother, mentor, and woman of God will make you a worthy and supportive woman to the man God👏 prepared 👏for 👏 you 👏. All those trials and obstacles you overcame with those same qualities are not unitools, they’re the fiberContinue reading “Dear Beautifully Strong Willed Woman,”
Hustle, but Don’t Lose Your People
The hustle can make you hard, turn you savage, make you forget to love people. It distracts you from loyalty, compassion, and sympathy. The drive to have more stuff, be number one, beat out the competition can eclipse our inclination to be humble and kind or consider how we affect others with our actions. AndContinue reading “Hustle, but Don’t Lose Your People”
Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst
Not everyone is a pink Starburst. Sometimes people let us down and disappoint us. So, is it fair to actually BE let down? Because maybe the people we WANT to be the pink Starburst are nice yellow Starbursts – good but different. Still good! I’ve discovered at the ripe age of 29+? that it’s moreContinue reading “Not Everyone is a Pink Starburst”
Should You Apologize to Your Kids?
By far, one of the greatest lessons you could ever teach your kids is how to humbly apologize. I’m not always good at it, but I feel like I’ve not been terrible at it, either. It starts with apologizing to them. It doesn’t make you a bad parent to admit you messed up, it doesn’tContinue reading “Should You Apologize to Your Kids?”
Got Grit?
Who are you when things aren’t perfect? Our lives are filled daily with imperfect situations and relationships where God has given us this beautiful, unique ability to reevaluate and modify the way we manage. While we can’t control what’s happening TO us, we can certainly control our actions in response to imperfect circumstances surrounding us.Continue reading “Got Grit?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 