What’s it mean when men “Mutely Witness”?

I mostly write about women and relationships. Simply put because I’m a woman, my thoughts are largely focused on how females can love better, mother better, and how it feels to be hurt, and how I want to love when people hurt. Today I’m reminded again about leadership and how it connects men and womenContinue reading “What’s it mean when men “Mutely Witness”?”

The Lighthouse Keeper Stays Awake

My second to last ugly cry a was the morning we buried my granddad “Papa” in 2020. Your memories tend to track the things your heart measures. I was driving to the 6a service of 21 days of prayer with tears so deep I couldn’t see the road and a voice so unsteady I couldn’tContinue reading “The Lighthouse Keeper Stays Awake”

Christmas Recovery

To all the parents out there recovering from Christmas….You’re doing a good job, you nailed it, and it was all worth it. God sent His only son down to be born into a family for a reason. He could have sent Him as a grown adult, but He specifically chose a mother for Him whoContinue reading “Christmas Recovery”

Maybe if You Ask 67 Times

Maybe if you ask 67 times you’ll turn that no into a yes. Maybe reword it or ask for the same thing from a different angle. Maybe keep pushing and ask at a different time of day. Or maybe listen to the answer the first time, change the situation by doing your part to changeContinue reading “Maybe if You Ask 67 Times”

Little Bird Brain

Something my grandmother always said was that our “little bird brains” aren’t supposed to understand everything. Why do bad things happen? Why do the ones we love get sick? Why is there violence and destruction? Why do things fall apart? Maybe we’re not meant to understand. Maybe there’s a greater lesson and a bigger purpose.Continue reading “Little Bird Brain”

So, What? You Fell Down?

How many times does a baby fall before he finally walks? Dozens at minimum? Probably hundreds? You’ll never hear his parent say, “It’s okay little Johnny, walking’s probably not for you,” & carry him around until he’s fifteen. If your growth opportunity feels resistant, it’s because you’re GROWING & there’s always opposition when there’s improvement.Continue reading “So, What? You Fell Down?”

Timeline of Regret

If you live long enough you may look back at a point in your life and want a do over. Think about that. So 2 years ago you didn’t handle something the way you think today you would have handled it and that makes you wish you could go back and change it. But twoContinue reading “Timeline of Regret”

How Far do You Take it?

This may be an unpopular opinion and also maybe hypocritical to my “let it go” and “heal the hurt” messages…so hear me out. How far do you take it when someone hurts your child? All the way to the gates of hell to deliver them and back is how far I’ll take it. I’m notContinue reading “How Far do You Take it?”

Is it Okay to Say No?

If someone asks you to do something or if they can have something is it okay to say no? Absolutely it is. I feel like there’s this pressure to please others while displeasing ourselves, like it’s our penance to pay for unrelated things. I was raised Catholic, so doing “things” to make up for sinsContinue reading “Is it Okay to Say No?”

When is Being Stubborn Just Being Foolish?

I’ve been selling real estate for a good long while now, like 25 years. So I’ve seen a thing or two and I’ve definitely learned the patterns of people and their stubbornness. If you’ve got your house 50k overpriced and it’s not moving, there’s a reason. It’s not because “the right buyer” hasn’t seen itContinue reading “When is Being Stubborn Just Being Foolish?”

What’s Karen Got to Do With It?

Ever notice how people who aren’t trying to grow spiritually or people who have a really high horse they’re on like to point out everyone else’s sin? It’s super annoying. Guess what!? Churches are full of sinners. Yep. It’s true! 100% sinners. I’d rather be called a hypocrite by a busy body than never feelContinue reading “What’s Karen Got to Do With It?”

When Someone You Love Struggles

Seeing someone you love struggle with spiritual warfare is a helpless feeling. My natural instinct is to dig in and fix it. Lean in and love them harder. Until I realize the enemy would love to be the reason I sacrifice even the tiniest bit of faith, rerouting my effort and time away from myContinue reading “When Someone You Love Struggles”