If we get a toothache, we know to go to the dentist to treat it. We all know a toothache is something you can’t ignore because we all know it’ll just get worse and worse if you do. So why do we sometimes ignore conflict when we don’t want to deal with it? It doesn’tContinue reading “If Conflict was a Toothache…”
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Leave it in the Rearview
There’s something cathartic about driving away. Especially when you look the rear view mirror and literally see your problems get smaller. But do they? Do problems go away just because you leave them where you felt them? They really don’t. Sometimes we just need a break. A way to clear our heads and think andContinue reading “Leave it in the Rearview”
Timeline of Regret
If you live long enough you may look back at a point in your life and want a do over. Think about that. So 2 years ago you didn’t handle something the way you think today you would have handled it and that makes you wish you could go back and change it. But twoContinue reading “Timeline of Regret”
It’s Not Right or Wrong
It’s not right or wrong, it’s “do you understand?”… The best relationships are born and thrive in this question. It’s not always about defending your decision. It’s not always about proving to the other person why you were justified and where they were wrong. If maintaining the relationship is important to you, it’s about understandingContinue reading “It’s Not Right or Wrong”
When You See it Coming…
Sometimes we find ourselves in less that desirable situations because we’ve gotten ourselves into less than desirable situations. Sometimes when the stars don’t align, the train takes too long to pass, or someone doesn’t react like we thought they would, it shifts us out of plan and away from how we wanted life to be.Continue reading “When You See it Coming…”
How Far do You Take it?
This may be an unpopular opinion and also maybe hypocritical to my “let it go” and “heal the hurt” messages…so hear me out. How far do you take it when someone hurts your child? All the way to the gates of hell to deliver them and back is how far I’ll take it. I’m notContinue reading “How Far do You Take it?”
I’ll Be Happy When ……
“I must accept life unconditionally. Most people ask for happiness on condition. Happiness can only be felt if you don’t set any condition.” Margaret Lee Runbeck I’ll be happy when the dog doesn’t pee in the house any more. I’ll be happy when the baby is out of diapers. I’ll be happy when the teacherContinue reading “I’ll Be Happy When ……”
Why Demand What You Can Request?
I was watching two little boys play yesterday, taking turns jumping off of a bench, and I hear “Get out of my way” from one to the other. Well, that wasn’t very nice. I called that little boy over and said, “Okay, I’m going to say the same thing to you in two different waysContinue reading “Why Demand What You Can Request?”
Did That Actually Happen?
Sometimes we get mad, hurt, and disappointed. People act dumb, careless, and inconsiderate. But what about when they don’t? What about the times we get worked up, fill in our own blanks, make the ending up, and then get pissed at the story we wrote ourselves. It didn’t actually happen. If it didn’t even happen,Continue reading “Did That Actually Happen?”
Ass-U-Me, pronounced “assooome”
When we assume, we’re relying on the information we have to feel a certain way about how things turned out. But what if we don’t have all the information? What if that friend didn’t call you back like they said they would because their kid got sick and puked all over the couch and whileContinue reading “Ass-U-Me, pronounced “assooome””
Are Threats Different Than Consequences?
Consequences or ITTT (if this, then that) usually follow logic, rhyme, reason, cause and effect, and are generally related to some normal reaction or consequence to a decision. You know what you’re getting into because the logic flows and is pretty clear. And it’s usually your own fault. You speed, you get a speeding ticket.Continue reading “Are Threats Different Than Consequences?”
Is Social Media Making You Sad?
Is social media making you sad? There’s a good chance it might have something to do with it. Everyone looking all happy and successful, with perfect children and perfect marriages…on perfect trips in perfect cars with perfect friends who give perfect advice and the perfect gift for no reason. We have to know all thatContinue reading “Is Social Media Making You Sad?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 