Consequences or ITTT (if this, then that) usually follow logic, rhyme, reason, cause and effect, and are generally related to some normal reaction or consequence to a decision. You know what you’re getting into because the logic flows and is pretty clear. And it’s usually your own fault. You speed, you get a speeding ticket.Continue reading “Are Threats Different Than Consequences?”
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Is Social Media Making You Sad?
Is social media making you sad? There’s a good chance it might have something to do with it. Everyone looking all happy and successful, with perfect children and perfect marriages…on perfect trips in perfect cars with perfect friends who give perfect advice and the perfect gift for no reason. We have to know all thatContinue reading “Is Social Media Making You Sad?”
If I Agree With You….
If I agree with you to appease you, and you’re wrong…that makes us both wrong. Ouch. Sometimes we think being a peacemaker means agreeing, but if agreeing makes the both of you wrong, is that the side you want to be on? It’s perfectly okay to respectfully disagree or minimum to say “I’m going toContinue reading “If I Agree With You….”
Get in the Woods
A lot of the world’s problems can be solved as far as you can tell by just removing yourself from them for a minute. When the world feels a little heavy, the whirlwind of daily life runs you, or when it feels like every single decision is on your shoulders… Go to the woods. TakeContinue reading “Get in the Woods”
Is it Okay to Say No?
If someone asks you to do something or if they can have something is it okay to say no? Absolutely it is. I feel like there’s this pressure to please others while displeasing ourselves, like it’s our penance to pay for unrelated things. I was raised Catholic, so doing “things” to make up for sinsContinue reading “Is it Okay to Say No?”
When is Being Stubborn Just Being Foolish?
I’ve been selling real estate for a good long while now, like 25 years. So I’ve seen a thing or two and I’ve definitely learned the patterns of people and their stubbornness. If you’ve got your house 50k overpriced and it’s not moving, there’s a reason. It’s not because “the right buyer” hasn’t seen itContinue reading “When is Being Stubborn Just Being Foolish?”
What’s “Commitment” Mean?
Are you really so committed if you truly enjoy what you do or who you’re with? Think about that. To me, commitment happens when you don’t enjoy it. We say “we just grew apart”’ “I just got tired”, or “life happened” or whatever thing we say to justify changing our mind. No, commitment is whenContinue reading “What’s “Commitment” Mean?”
Negative Mind —> Negative Life
GOOD women can be irascible tarts. The snide remarks, manipulative pot stirring, gossipy tendencies, snarkiness, and sometimes just downright meanness can drive the good influences away. We all go through seasons of negativity, usually relative to WHO we’re surrounding ourselves with – and possibly that we’re not going to church or digging deep with someContinue reading “Negative Mind —> Negative Life”
Where Does Wisdom Come From?
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.” James 3:17 NLT Being willing to yield to others doesn’t meanContinue reading “Where Does Wisdom Come From?”
Are Hurts Like Leftovers?
“The key to happiness is a short memory.” Betty Creel White “What if hearts are infinitely reparable? Would knowing that make you fearless in love? Instead of avoiding heartbreak, you could give all your passion and play and intimacy…and trust your heart’s ability to heal from the inevitable bumps, bruises and crashes. Contrary to fantasy,Continue reading “Are Hurts Like Leftovers?”
Being Wrong About People Sucks
Betrayal stings so bad because it always stings to be wrong. Wait what?? Yes…. that’s right. It’s rough to truly believe someone “Would never, EVER ” only to find out they did. It’s gross, unbelievable, and it makes you feel like you missed something. But, if believing the people we love are secret Judas/ BrutasContinue reading “Being Wrong About People Sucks”
Sticking to the Plan?
What drives you? Does a conscious decision you made for your life and your family drive you, or do your feelings and emotions blow you around like a leaf on a tree leaving you to remake the same decisions over and over again? It’s too mentally exhausting and energy taxing to live in groundhog decisionContinue reading “Sticking to the Plan?”
Deeper Than a Puddle 